The symptoms of co-dependence are largely focused around a compulsion to put others' needs before your own, a tendency to develop relationships that are one-sided, abusive or destructive, and a fear of not being liked by others. This often causes co-dependent people to stay in abusive or unhealthy relationships. Rather than seeing the abuse they are subjected to, co-dependent people will place the feelings of their abuser above themselves. They may even see the abuse as a result of their own failings as a partner.
As a leading, private behavioural health clinic for the treatment of co-dependence, Life Works is able to help you. We can answer any questions or concerns you may have, and help you find the right treatment.
If you are suffering with co-dependency, please call 0800 081 0700 or click here to complete a short enquiry form.
Symptoms of co-dependence
- You judge what you think, say or do harshly, and as never 'good enough'
- Receiving recognition, praise or gifts embarrasses you
- You don't ask others to meet your needs or wants
- You value others' approval of your thoughts, feelings and behaviour over your own
- You perceive yourself as an unlovable or unworthy person
- You struggle to identify your own feelings
- You minimise, alter or deny how you really feel
- You perceive yourself as unselfish and fully dedicated to others' well being
- You perceive other people as unable to take care of themselves
- You try to convince others of what they 'should' think and how they 'really' feel
- You feel resentment towards people who won't let you help them
- You give other people advice – even if they haven't asked for your help
- You have used sex to gain acceptance and approval
- You need to be 'needed' to have relationships with people
- You compromise your own values and integrity to avoid others' anger or rejection
- You are fiercely loyal, and stay in dangerous or abusive situations too long
- You accept sex when you want love
Denial is common and symptomatic of co-dependence, so you may deny that you have a problem both to yourself and to others, through:
- Minimising the impact of your co-dependence on your health
- Criticising those around you for making too much fuss about your relationships
- Concealing your codependent behaviours and relationships from your friends or family
- Placing the blame for your co-dependence on other people or situations in your life, such as "I devote myself to my friends and family but when I need help, no one is there for me", or "I do my best for people and I never get any thanks for it"
Life Works provides first rate support and guidance in the treatment of co-dependency. To discuss how we can help you, please call 0800 081 0700 or click here to complete a short enquiry form.