Life Works - the leading specialist in the treatment of love addiction
Do I have a problem with love addiction?
The symptoms of love addiction are largely focused around unhealthy dependency within relationships. These include, self-neglect and distorted thoughts, feelings and behaviour around love and fantasies and relationships.
This means most love addicts fall in love very quickly but have a hard time coping with a long term relationship. Once the initial attraction fades and the honeymoon period is over, love addicts quickly lose interest and begin neglecting their relationship.
If you are struggling with love addiction, please call Life Works at 0800 081 0700 or fill out our contact form.
Love addiction behaviours
- You tend to fall in love very easily and very quickly.
- When looking for a partner, initial attraction is the most important thing for you. If you are attracted to someone, you disregard any signs that he / she may not be good for you.
- Once you have bonded with someone, you find it impossible to let go.
- You constantly fantasize about love – even when you are not in a relationship. For example, the ideal partner you hope to meet, or a previous partner whom you once loved.
- The thought of never finding someone to love terrifies you.
- When you are in love, your fantasies distract you from important, everyday tasks.
- You know that you become very needy in a relationship – or very often smother your partner.
- You value love above anything else – it is the only thing you are really interested in.
- In previous relationships you were the only one in love.
- You have stayed in a relationship with someone who was abusive towards you.
- After a relationship has ended, you feel that your life is truly over - and on occasions you have contemplated suicide.
- When you are not in a relationship, you feel engulfed by loneliness and will often seek out another partner just to avoid this feeling.
- When you are in a relationship, you find it impossible to say no to your partner – for example, if he / she threatens to leave the relationship.
- You do whatever you can to please your partner – for example, denying or sacrificing your own needs and wants in the relationship.
- You become very jealous and possessive in relationships – for example, feeling compelled to check up on your partner.
- You have followed or stalked a new or previous partner.
- When you fall in love with someone, you will pursue them – even if they are in a relationship with someone else.
- Your constant pursuit of romantic relationships or the ideal partner mean that you do less of the things that were important to you - for example, seeing friends or family, going out or enjoying hobbies.
- Your relationships with family and friends tend to suffer when you are in a romantic relationship.
For more information on love addiction or our treatment, please call 0800 081 0700 or fill out our contact form.
Denial is common and symptomatic of love addiction, so you may deny that you have a problem both to yourself and to others, through:
- Minimising the impact of your love addiction on your health.
- Criticising those around you for making too much fuss about your relationship patterns.
- Concealing your love addiction from your friends and family.
- Placing the blame for your love addiction on other people or situations in your life, such as “I need to find someone because my life is becoming so stressful”.
As a leading, private behavioural health clinic for the treatment of love addiction, Life Works is able to help you. We can answer any questions or concerns you may have, and help you find the right treatment.
If you need help or advice about love addiction for yourself or a loved one, please call us on 0800 081 0700 you can also fill out our contact form.