Commitment to yourself and your recovery is vitally important, as breaking that commitment can lead to self-loathing, loss of trust and the conviction in yourself.
With the New Year already in full swing,it seems the appropriate time to reflect on your life in sobriety and what you’d like to accomplish in the days, weeks, and months ahead. For the recovering addict, every day offers a new opportunity to make a commitment to recovery. To recover is a life long commitment and dedication to change.
For the recovering addict, breaking the commitment to sobriety has immense repercussions. Every time we break our promises, whether to ourselves or to others, our self-esteem, self-respect, and confidence weaken. This kind of behavior may ultimately leads to self-loathing, as we cannot trust ourselves to do what we say we are going to do. Consequently we refrain from committing to anything or anyone. Every time we resolve not to drink, binge, starve ourselves, gamble, etc. and find ourselves at the end of the day having done just that, our self-esteem diminishes.
Perhaps the word ‘commitment’ evokes different feelings in all of us. Perhaps for you, the act of committing yourself to something is new. If that is the case, thinking of commitment as merely being responsible for yourself, your internal state, and your own world, might allow you to reclaim a sense of control.
As we progress in our journey to recovery, some of us have a tendency to forget what our most important priority is. In our busy lives, where the kids need attention, the house needs cleaning, our partner want to see more of us, we may realize we haven’t phoned our sponsor, spoken to a new comer, or been to any meetings in quite a while. We recognize that our priorities have shifted and find ourselves having to make a choice in how we proceed. It seems we have only one of two options available to us; We either renew our commitment to our recovery whilst prioritizing differently, or we carry on until something in our life becomes unmanageable and the desire to relapse becomes too overwhelming to resist.
However, before we allow ourselves to get to this stage, it seems important to focus on strengthening and maintaining the foundation on which our recovery is built to reinforce our commitment every day.
Once we notice our commitment wavering and our priorities shifting it might be valuable to grab a pen and a piece of paper and note the reasons WHY you wanted sobriety and what it will cost you to break your commitment. As humans we need a reason for our actions and without reasons or consequences our commitment will waver.
By living out of integrity and walking the talk everyday our self-esteem and self-respect will gradually get restored. Becoming someone we truly respect, - our own best friend is very powerful.
‘There’s a difference between interest and commitment. When you are interested in doing something you do it only when circumstances permit. When you’re committed to something you accept no excuses, only results’.