Signs and Symptoms of Co-dependency

The symptoms of co-dependence are largely focused around a compulsion to put others' needs before your own, a tendency to develop relationships that are one-sided, abusive or destructive, and a fear of not being liked by others. This often causes co-dependent people to stay in abusive or unhealthy relationships. Rather than seeing the abuse they are subjected to, co-dependent people will place the feelings of their abuser above themselves. They may even see the abuse as a result of their own failings as a partner.

As a leading, private behavioural health clinic for the treatment of co-dependence, Life Works is able to help you. We can answer any questions or concerns you may have, and help you find the right treatment.

If you are suffering with co-dependency, please call 0800 081 0700 or click here to complete a short enquiry form.

Symptoms of co-dependence

  • You judge what you think, say or do harshly, and as never 'good enough'
  • Receiving recognition, praise or gifts embarrasses you
  • You don't ask others to meet your needs or wants
  • You value others' approval of your thoughts, feelings and behaviour over your own
  • You perceive yourself as an unlovable or unworthy person
  • You struggle to identify your own feelings
  • You minimise, alter or deny how you really feel
  • You perceive yourself as unselfish and fully dedicated to others' well being
  • You perceive other people as unable to take care of themselves
  • You try to convince others of what they 'should' think and how they 'really' feel
  • You feel resentment towards people who won't let you help them
  • You give other people advice – even if they haven't asked for your help
  • You have used sex to gain acceptance and approval
  • You need to be 'needed' to have relationships with people
  • You compromise your own values and integrity to avoid others' anger or rejection
  • You are fiercely loyal, and stay in dangerous or abusive situations too long
  • You accept sex when you want love

Symptomatic denial

Denial is common and symptomatic of co-dependence, so you may deny that you have a problem both to yourself and to others, through:

  • Minimising the impact of your co-dependence on your health
  • Criticising those around you for making too much fuss about your relationships
  • Concealing your codependent behaviours and relationships from your friends or family
  • Placing the blame for your co-dependence on other people or situations in your life, such as "I devote myself to my friends and family but when I need help, no one is there for me", or "I do my best for people and I never get any thanks for it"

Contact us

Life Works provides first rate support and guidance in the treatment of co-dependency. To discuss how we can help you, please call 0800 081 0700 or click here to complete a short enquiry form.


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